Thursday, June 26, 2014

Trapped

It happens ever more frequently, an intriguing visualization creeps into Maria’s consciousness … she’s a gentle butterfly, imprisoned inside of an overprotective cocoon.

Unfortunately, the uplifting experience turns melancholy when a faint voice, that seems to be bouncing around inside her head, desperately pleads …

“Help … I’m trapped, and I can’t get out!”

As far back as Maria can recall, she’s been living one life on the inside and another on the outside, and she’s begun to understand that the faint voice is hers, saying what she’s been too afraid to verbalize … I’m trapped!

Lately, though, Maria has been rolling with the visualization, imagining there really is a precious butterfly locked up inside of her, struggling to break free but being held hostage by its cocoon … its fears … her fears.

Inspired, Maria pictures herself bursting forth into the world, setting her butterfly free to laugh, to love and to do all the things she’s been too afraid to try. Just thinking of change overwhelms her, taking her outside of her comfort zone, but desperate to be healthy and happy, she finally makes up her mind to do it.

But how?

Sunday, June 8, 2014

Clarity

Family and friends, even complete strangers, are always remarking on how they wish they could be Gloria. In their eyes, she’s a carefree spirit, a social butterfly and perhaps the only person on Facebook to truly have over one thousand real friends.

If they only knew!

Truth be told, Gloria hates the lie she’s living. She never married, having convinced herself and others she was just too busy having fun. What was once a positive has turned negative, and now she’s scared, lonely and hurts, not just physically … the emotional pain is the worst.

Lately, Gloria’s life seems to consist solely of finding ways to avoid that grief. All her married friends either fight or end up divorced, but it’s the painful memories of her parents, always arguing, never happy, that has driven her to use her career and social engagements to keep herself busy to the point of perpetual exhaustion. Anything to keep her from being alone with her thoughts.

In a moment of clarity and honesty, Gloria finds the strength to move forward with a new plan for her life, realizing she can’t live this lie any longer. No more, she finally decides. I want to be happy … I need to be happy!

Sunday, May 25, 2014

Reflections

With a mixture of fear and exhaustion, Suzanne stares into those troubled eyes that hold her uneasy gaze, and she wonders, can I do it? Do I have the strength to see it through? Considering her past history, she’s hesitant to make any more false promises she can’t, or won’t, keep.

Looking at herself as an outsider would, Suzanne knows she’s successful, an attorney, the first female partner in the law firm’s history. She’s living the dream … the house, the husband, the kids, the money. She’s got it all … so why do I feel so sad and hollow inside?

But it wasn’t always this way. 

Suzanne harks back to younger days, when she was a newlywed, just starting out and always struggling to make ends meet. She was happy then, but somewhere along the journey, life changed. The sunny days turned to gray and never seemed to clear up. Now the pain and misery permeate every fiber of her being, seeming to grow worse with each passing day.

Being an attorney, Suzanne has cross-examined herself countless times, always coming to the same conclusion. She needs to make some changes. Major changes!

Leaning in closer to the mirror, Suzanne sees the grief etched on that oh-so-familiar face, noticing the lines that never used to be there, and a tear rolls down her cheek. “Yes,” she says, the relief immediately visible in her reflection, “I would rather be healthy, happy and at peace within, than spend one more day trapped inside this damn cocoon, a prisoner of my fears!”

Thursday, May 15, 2014

Indestructible

Celebrating his fiftieth birthday, Frank thinks back to his youth, a time when he fearlessly performed stunts on his skateboard, surfboard and snowboard. Buffed, tan and energetic, he was indestructible.

All these years later, Frank realizes he was merely filled with the naiveté of youth … clueless. But having been, at the time, totally oblivious to the depth and breadth of his cluelessness, he mimicked the Rockers whose lyrics he took to heart. His motto was live fast, play hard and die young. That was the plan, anyway.

Then reality kicked in. The health problems. Two marriages, two divorces, three kids. This wasn’t the way Frank had imagine it would be, a life seemingly wasted. His life!

Where did the years go? he repeatedly asks himself, and who is this old man living in my body?

Despite Frank’s renewed efforts with the kids, only his eldest son will speak to him. Determined, he’s begun the process of accepting himself for who he is, instead of keeping his thoughts stuck on the past. These days, he’s older, wiser and dreams of being healthy and happy again. Truly happy, for perhaps the first time in his life. He’s ready to put in the effort, make the changes.

Blowing out the candles on his birthday cake, Frank catches a glimpse of his son and says a wish for him, praying it comes true. His heart aches to know his oldest has turned out just like him. And like him, he has no use for his father’s advice, his wisdom.

Live fast, play hard, die young … no, thanks!

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Nick on Turning Points

What would it be like to face life's greatest obstacles head-on, forging ahead despite your fears? How do others do it? Is it even possible?

In this three-minute radio interview, Nick discusses life's turning points ... how to recognize these defining moments and use them as gateways to a brighter future!


Preview and purchase Turning Points, and all of Nick's books, at Amazon!

Monday, April 28, 2014

Baggage

Although each of us has our own unique story about how and why we’re searching for a different path through life, it’s a universal fact of life that no matter how far or how fast you run, your fears will always be there waiting for you when you arrive.

Truth is, you will never be free of your fears so long as you’re trying to outrun them or keep them at bay, perhaps by staying busy to the point of perpetual exhaustion. Whatever your method of avoidance, your fears will only grow in size and power, even as you accumulate more and more new fears, until one day, your body will simply stop functioning in a way that allows you to use travel as an escape, or work and social events as a means to run yourself ragged. One day, your body will simply shout …

“Enough!”

… forcing you to do what you should have been doing all along, standing still and facing your fears, allowing them to bring you discomfort and pain in order that you may release them into the infinite universe. Whether you leap or plod your way through life, you need not wait for the point of capitulation to begin your journey to health and happiness!

Monday, April 21, 2014

Searching

Like millions of people, you may have reached a point in your life where you’re searching for an alternative path, one that brings you health, happiness and inner peace. Physically and emotionally exhausted, facing more health challenges than you ever imagined possible, you’re looking for a fresh start. You’re looking to fix what’s broken, even though you can’t recall having intentionally broken anything, least of all your spirit.

Let’s face it, while these concepts are easy to grasp, it’s nearly impossible to know where to begin tinkering, fixing, repairing your most-prized possession—you! At this point, you’re not even certain how to begin. Or whether you can summon the courage to make the drastic changes necessary to set you on this new path.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or confused by the current course of your life, Turning Points will help you to step away from your problems and look at them from a bird’s-eye view. From here, you’ll discover that gateways to your own personal journey were right in front of you, always available and just waiting for you to take that first step … to make those changes!

Monday, April 14, 2014

Turning Points

By way of launching A Bird's-eye View, I begin with a series of blogs on Turning Points, a newly published book that takes the Google Earth perspective on life, elevating above the fray for a bird's-eye view on some of life's most significant moments  turning points.
What would it be like to face life’s greatest obstacles head-on, forging ahead despite your fears? How do others do it? Is it even possible?

We’ve all been there … you’ve reached a turning point in your life. More often than not, these defining moments require dramatic changes. Scary changes. When these situations arise, whatever your circumstances, the choice is always the same—whether to remain miserable, living your current life, or to walk through this gateway in search of a brighter future.

Insightful and forward-thinking, Turning Points was crafted with this moment in mind. Written as an introductory companion to Freeing Your Inner Butterfly, it uses a wide variety of life-like visualizations to illustrate how people from all walks of life often find themselves in the same place as you … at a turning point.

Regardless of where you are right now, Turning Points will help you to recognize, visualize and embrace these pivotal moments in your life. Further, it demonstrates how you can tear down the emotional roadblocks preventing you from seeing and understanding what was there all along … a gateway to your journey to health and happiness!